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Life is not a bed of roses . . . Hayat güllük gülistanlık değildir . . .

Posted in Allah (Jalla Jalaluhu), AŞK, SEMRA'NIN DÜNYASI & SEMRA'S WORLD !, The articles in English & stories, İNŞİRAH, İSLAM, İSTANBUL with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on 14/10/2017 by Semra Polat

What a beautiful pray: .❝Our Lord, pour upon us patience and plant firmly our feet.❞ Patient to Friends, Enemies, Blessing, Tribulation, Exam.

Ne güzel bir duadır: .❝Rabbimiz üzerimize sabır yağdır, ayaklarımızı (düşman karşısında) sabit kıl.❞ Dosta, Düşmana, Nimete, Musibete, İmtihana Sabır…

We are always in an exam. About the people we love and we don’t love. About our friends, enemies. Oh Allah! Don’t let us to be loser!

Her an imtihandayız. Sevdiklerimizle, sevmediklerimizle. Dostlarımızla, düşmanlarımızla. Ey Allah’ım! Kaybedenlerden eyleme!

Life is not a bed of roses. Sometimes we have to walk on thorns. In times of prosperity make Shukr. In times of adversity make Sabr.

Hayat güllük gülistanlık değildir. Bazen diken üzerinde yürümek zorundayız. Bolluk zamanlarında Şükret. Zorluk zamanlarında sabret.

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Why do people have to leave each other? Neden insanlar birbirlerini bırakmak zorundadırlar? by Yasmin Mogahed

Posted in Allah (Jalla Jalaluhu), The articles in English & stories, İNŞİRAH, İSLAM, İSTANBUL with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on 23/08/2017 by Semra Polat

When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me: “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question was a personal one, but it seemed clear to me why the question was chosen for me.
I was one to get attached.

Ever since I was a child, this temperament was clear. While other children in preschool could easily recover once their parents left, I could not. My tears, once set in motion, did not stop easily. As I grew up, I learned to become attached to everything around me. From the time I was in first grade, I needed a best friend. As I got older, any fall-out with a friend shattered me. I couldn’t let go of anything. People, places, events, photographs, moments—even outcomes became objects of strong attachment. If things didn’t work out the way I wanted or imagined they should, I was devastated. And disappointment for me wasn’t an ordinary emotion. It was catastrophic. Once let down, I never fully recovered. I could never forget, and the break never mended. Like a glass vase that you place on the edge of a table, once broken, the pieces never quite fit again.

But the problem wasn’t with the vase. Or even that the vases kept breaking. The problem was that I kept putting them on the edge of tables. Through my attachments, I was dependent on my relationships to fulfill my needs. I allowed those relationships to define my happiness or my sadness, my fulfillment or my emptiness, my security, and even my self-worth. And so, like the vase placed where it will inevitably fall, through those dependencies I set myself up for disappointment. I set myself up to be broken. And that’s exactly what I found: one disappointment, one break after another.

But the people who broke me were not to blame any more than gravity can be blamed for breaking the vase. We can’t blame the laws of physics when a twig snaps because we leaned on it for support. The twig was never created to carry us.

Our weight was only meant to be carried by God. We are told in the Quran: “…whoever rejects evil and believes in God hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And God hears and knows all things.” (Qur’an 2: 256)

There is a crucial lesson in this verse: that there is only one handhold that never breaks. There is only one place where we can lay our dependencies. There is only one relationship that should define our self-worth and only one source from which to seek our ultimate happiness, fulfillment, and security. That place is God.

But this world is all about seeking those things everywhere else. Some of us seek it in our careers, some seek it in wealth, some in status. Some, like me, seek it in our relationships. In her book, Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert describes her own quest for happiness. She describes moving in and out of relationships, and even traveling the globe in search of this fulfillment. She seeks that fulfillment—unsuccessfully—in her relationships, in meditation, even in food.

And that’s exactly where I spent much of my own life: seeking a way to fill my inner void. So it was no wonder that the little girl in my dream asked me this question. It was a question about loss, about disappointment. It was a question about being let down. A question about seeking something and coming back empty handed. It was about what happens when you try to dig in concrete with your bare hands: not only do you come back with nothing—you break your fingers in the process. And I learned this not by reading it, not by hearing it from a wise sage. I learned it by trying it again, and again, and again.

And so, the little girl’s question was essentially my own question…being asked to myself.

Ultimately, the question was about the nature of the dunya as a place of fleeting moments and temporary attachments. As a place where people are with you today, and leave or die tomorrow. But this reality hurts our very being because it goes against our nature. We, as humans, are made to seek, love, and strive for what is perfect and what is permanent. We are made to seek what’s eternal. We seek this because we were not made for this life. Our first and true home was Paradise: a land that is both perfect and eternal. So the yearning for that type of life is a part of our being. The problem is that we try to find that here. And so we create ageless creams and cosmetic surgery in a desperate attempt to hold on—in an attempt to mold this world into what it is not, and will never be.

And that’s why if we live in dunya with our hearts, it breaks us. That’s why this dunya hurts. It is because the definition of dunya, as something temporary and imperfect, goes against everything we are made to yearn for. Allah put a yearning in us that can only be fulfilled by what is eternal and perfect. By trying to find fulfillment in what is fleeting, we are running after a hologram…a mirage. We are digging into concrete with our bare hands. Seeking to turn what is by its very nature temporary into something eternal is like trying to extract from fire, water. You just get burned. Only when we stop putting our hopes in dunya, only when we stop trying to make the dunya into what it is not—and was never meant to be (jannah)—will this life finally stop breaking our hearts.

We must also realize that nothing happens without a purpose. Nothing. Not even broken hearts. Not even pain. That broken heart and that pain are lessons and signs for us. They are warnings that something is wrong. They are warnings that we need to make a change. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. That we need to detach. Pain is a form of forced detachment. Like the loved one who hurts you again and again and again, the more dunya hurts us, the more we inevitably detach from it. The more we inevitably stop loving it.

And pain is a pointer to our attachments. That which makes us cry, that which causes us most pain is where our false attachments lie. And it is those things which we are attached to as we should only be attached to Allah which become barriers on our path to God. But the pain itself is what makes the false attachment evident. The pain creates a condition in our life that we seek to change, and if there is anything about our condition that we don’t like, there is a divine formula to change it. God says: “Verily never will God change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves.” (Qur’an, 13:11)

After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak, I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that love of dunya meant being attached to material things. And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I thought that the love of dunya just did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all a part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in life was due to one thing, and one thing only: love of dunya.

As soon as I began to have that realization, a veil was lifted from my eyes. I started to see what my problem was. I was expecting this life to be what it is not, and was never meant to be: perfect. And being the idealist that I am, I was struggling with every cell in my body to make it so. It had to be perfect. And I would not stop until it was. I gave my blood, sweat, and tears to this endeavor: making the dunya into jannah. This meant expecting people around me to be perfect. Expecting my relationships to be perfect. Expecting so much from those around me and from this life. Expectations. Expectations. Expectations. And if there is one recipe for unhappiness it is that: expectations. But herein lay my fatal mistake. My mistake was not in having expectations; as humans, we should never lose hope. The problem was in *where* I was placing those expectations and that hope. At the end of the day, my hope and expectations were not being placed in God. My hope and expectations were in people, relationships, means. Ultimately, my hope was in this dunya rather than Allah.

And so I came to realize a very deep Truth. An ayah began to cross my mind. It was an ayah I had heard before, but for the first time I realized that it was actually describing me: “Those who rest not their hope on their meeting with Us, but are pleased and satisfied with the life of the present, and those who heed not Our Signs.” (Qur’an, 10:7)

By thinking that I can have everything here, my hope was not in my meeting with God. My hope was in dunya. But what does it mean to place your hope in dunya? How can this be avoided? It means when you have friends, don’t expect your friends to fill your emptiness. When you get married, don’t expect your spouse to fulfill your every need. When you’re an activist, don’t put your hope in the results. When you’re in trouble don’t depend on yourself. Don’t depend on people. Depend on God.

Seek the help of people—but realize that it is not the people (or even your own self) that can save you. Only Allah can do these things. The people are only tools, a means used by God. But they are not the source of help, aid, or salvation of any kind. Only God is. The people cannot even create the wing of a fly (22:73). And so, even while you interact with people externally, turn your heart towards God. Face Him alone, as Prophet Ibrahim (as) said so beautifully: “For me, I have set my face, firmly and truly, towards Him Who created the heavens and the earth, and never shall I give partners to Allah.” (Qur’an, 6:79)

But how does Prophet Ibrahim (as) describe his journey to that point? He studies the moon, the sun and the stars and realizes that they are not perfect. They set.

They let us down.

So Prophet Ibrahim (as) was thereby led to face Allah alone. Like him, we need to put our full hope, trust, and dependency on God. And God alone. And if we do that, we will learn what it means to finally find peace and stability of heart. Only then will the roller coaster that once defined our lives finally come to an end. That is because if our inner state is dependent on something that is by definition inconstant, that inner state will also be inconstant. If our inner state is dependent on something changing and temporary, that inner state will be in a constant state of instability, agitation, and unrest. This means that one moment we’re happy, but as soon as that which our happiness depended upon changes, our happiness also changes. And we become sad. We remain always swinging from one extreme to another and not realizing why.

We experience this emotional roller coaster because we can never find stability and lasting peace until our attachment and dependency is on what is stable and lasting. How can we hope to find constancy if what we hold on to is inconstant and perishing? In the statement of Abu Bakr is a deep illustration of this truth. After the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ died, the people went into shock and could not handle the news. But although no one loved the Prophet ﷺ like Abu Bakr, Abu Bakr understood well the only place where one’s dependency should lie. He said: “If you worshipped Muhammad, know that Muhammad is dead. But if you worshipped Allah, know that Allah never dies.”

To attain that state, don’t let your source of fulfillment be anything other than your relationship with God. Don’t let your definition of success, failure, or self-worth be anything other than your position with Him (Qur’an, 49:13). And if you do this, you become unbreakable, because your handhold is unbreakable. You become unconquerable, because your supporter can never be conquered. And you will never become empty, because your source of fulfillment is unending and never diminishes.

Looking back at the dream I had when I was 17, I wonder if that little girl was me. I wonder this because the answer I gave her was a lesson I would need to spend the next painful years of my life learning. My answer to her question of why people have to leave each other was: “because this life isn’t perfect; for if it was, what would the next be called?”

Are you happy? Mutlu musun? ….All Praise and Thanks be to Allah & Al Hamdulillah.

Posted in Allah (Jalla Jalaluhu), DÜŞÜNDÜM, SEMRA'NIN DÜNYASI & SEMRA'S WORLD !, The articles in English & stories, Şiirler & poetry, İSLAM, İSTANBUL with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on 18/08/2017 by Semra Polat

If you woke up this morning and are healthy .. consider yourself the happiest person for a Million people will die in upcoming days

If you have never suffered from War, Hunger and Isolation .. Consider yourself the happiest person for 500 Million in the World are going through such hardship

If you practice your religion freely with no compulsion or even being murdered; then you are much happier than 3 Billion people in the World

If in your refrigerator there is food, there is clothes on you and upon you there is a roof .. then you are richer than 75 % of the population

If you have a bank account, money in your purse and there is some trifle in your coin box,you belong to 8% of the richest people in this world.

 If your parents are still alive and still married, then you are a rarity..

Finally, as you could read these statistics, consider yourself fortunate; for you are not among 2 Billion people who can’t read ..

So… are you Happy ? 

Eğer bu sabah sağlıklı uyandıysanız, bu hafta hastalıktan ölecek 1 milyon kişiden daha şanslısınız..

Eğer hiç savaşa girmemiş, işkence görmemiş, açlık çekmemişseniz dünyadaki tam 500 milyon kişiden daha şanslısınız.

Eğer evden çıkınca bir kazaya, tutuklanmaya, işkenceye uğrama ihtimaliniz yoksa 3 milyar kişiden daha iyi durumdasınız.

Eğer buzdolabında yiyeceğiniz, sırtınızda giysiniz, üstünüzde çatınız ve uyuyacak yeriniz varsa dünyanın % 75’inden daha zenginsiniz.

Eğer bankada ve cüzdanınızda sizi rahat geçindirecek paranız varsa, birilerine yardım edebiliyorsanız dünyanın ilk % 8 zenginlerindensiniz.

Eğer anna-babanız sağsa ve hala evliyse,  dünyada ender bulunan kişilerdensiniz.

Son olarak, eğer bu yazıyı okuyabiliyorsanız yeryüzündeki 2 milyar okuma-yazma bilmeyen kişiden daha şanslısınız.

Dolayısıyla … mutlu musun?

If you should count the favor of Allah, you could not enumerate them. Indeed, mankind is [generally] most unjust and ungrateful.

Eğer Allah’ın ni’metini saysanız onu sayamazsınız. Muhakkak insan, gerçekten çok zalim ve çok nankördür (inkârcıdır).

Al-Qur’an al-Kareem, Surah Ibrahim [14:34]

Fill your heart with Eemaan (Faith) and it will become the most peaceful place on earth.&.Kalbinizi iman ile doldurun yeryüzündeki en huzurlu yer haline gelecektir.

Posted in Allah (Jalla Jalaluhu), DÜŞÜNDÜM, DUA, HAYAT, The articles in English & stories, İNŞİRAH, İSLAM, İSTANBUL with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on 22/03/2017 by Semra Polat

Four poisons of the heart: 1. Unnecessary talking. 2. Unrestrained glances. 3. Too much food. 4. Keeping bad company.

Kalbin zehiri dört şeydir; 1. Gereksiz konuşmalar. 2. Gereksiz bakışlar. 3. Gereksiz yemeler. 4. Gereksiz birliktelikler.

| Ibn Al-Qayyim al-Jawziyaa

May Allah protect us from all these evils and keep us steadfast in remembering Him in ease and adversity.

If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, then I can achieve it. & Aklım kesiyorsa ve yüreğim inanıyorsa, başarabilirim. #MuhammadAli

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Never lose hope, my heart, miracles dwell in the invisible.

If the whole world turns against you keep your eyes on the Friend.

Asla umudunu kaybetme, sevgili kalbim, mucizeler görünmezin içinde yaşar.

Eğer bütün dünya sana karşıysa sen gözlerini dostuna çevir.

#Rumi

Not everyday is a good day, live anyway. Not all you love will love back, love anyway. Not everyone will tell the truth, be honest anyway…&..Hergün iyi bir gün değildir ama yine de yaşayın. Sevdiğiniz herkes sizi sevmeyecek ama siz yine de sevin. Herkes size karşı dürüst olmayacak ama siz yine dürüst olun.

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The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

― Kent M. Keith

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Paradoksal Emirler

İnsanlar çoğu kez makul değildir, mantıksız ve bencildirler.
Onları yine de sevin.

İyilik yaparsanız, insanlar sizi bencillikle, gizli amaçlara sahip olmakla suçlayabilirler.
Yine de iyilik yapın.

Başarılıysanız, sahte arkadaşlar ve gerçek düşmanlar edinebilirsiniz.
Yine de başarılı olun.

Bugün yaptığınız iyilik, yarın unutulacaktır.
Yine de siz iyilik yapın.

Dürüstlük ve açık sözlülük sizi kırılgan yapabilir.
Yine de siz dürüst ve açık sözlü olun.

En büyük, büyük düşünen kadın ve erkekler, en küçük, küçük düşünen kadın ve erkekler tarafından alaşağı edilebilirler.
Yine de siz büyük düşünün.

İnsanlar güçsüz insanları tercih eder, ama yalnız güçlüleri izlerler.
Yine de siz birkaç güçsüz adına savaşın.

İnşa etmeye yıllarınızı verdiğiniz bir şey bir gecede yıkılabilir.
Yine de inşa edin.

İnsanlar gerçekten yardıma ihtiyacı olur, ama siz yardım ettiğinizde size saldırabilirler.
Yine de yardım edin.

Dünya için elinizden gelini yapın ama bir gün tekmeyi yiyebilirsiniz.
Yine de dünya için elinizden geleni yapın.

― Kent M. Keith

 

 

Keep praying even if you only have a whisper left. He hears it all..&..Sadece bir fısıltı ile bile olsa dua etmeye devam et. O hepsini duyuyor.

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O Allah! I need you more than ever. Please bring peace to my confusion, joy to my sadness, and hope to my heart. Ameen.

Ey Allahım! Sana her zamankinden daha çok ihtiyacım var. Sıkıntılarımı huzura, acılarımı sevince çevir ve kalbimi ümitle doldur. Amin

Dr. Bilal Philips

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